Rhythm, Flow, Barriers and Walls in Relationships

by Sheila Finkelstein

The writing below, triggered by the photos, reminds us once again of the many ways we can see an image, person, or situation and the different “spins” we often put on them.

Take a moment, or more, to be with each photo. Note what, if anything, resonates with you. Then go to the Queries and Tips below.

Today’s Photos –

reflections of fence in pool

A fence reflected in a swimming pool,
Striped like a zebra or
Bars like a jail? Caging us in or
Keeping us out?

Yet the soft rhythm of the water –
Subtle…
And the lines…
The curve of the bottom/top of the fence
Looping and sharp, then solid,
Establishing direction

All balance into the imperfect
Perfection of life.

stringy leaves from palm tree

More vertical lines
Some very direct.
Contrasted with the water lines
These seem to make a wall,
Almost impenetrable.

Yet there are small openings and
The opportunity to marvel at Nature
Braiding the palm leaves as they
Hang toward the end of their life.

palm leaves clumped on ground

When life complete,
Dropped on the ground,
Wrapped in yet another way.

Today’s Relationship Tip and Queries
Did you take time with the individual photos? What did each say to you?

Did the second one represent a wall to you? If so, where you able to see the openings and go through?

TIP – When our commitments ARE greater than the barriers we see or feel, we are able to appreciate the movement and flow that IS there. Then are we able to find the openings to go through and beyond what might be holding us back in our relationships.

And in the third, are you reassurred and comforted that all the pieces in your relationships are comfortably wrapped and held together?

I invite you to share your experience with these photos and words in the COMMENTS SECTION BELOW.


More Love Tips – On the Brighter Side
If today’s message seemed “Heavy,” you might enjoy viewing the 8 tips on Rose Photos, set-up for for sharing as an exhibitor at the Lifelong Romance Retreat.

If you are interested in having them as a download, with more added, please email me with your request and/or suggestions.


If you find you were confronted with walls, I invite you to a 1/2 hour complimentary ReInvent Your Love session with me. You can book one directly on my CALENDAR or go to RYL SESSION for more information.


A Postscript from 2009
I just went back again to see what I had written for Self-Reflecting Queries in the issue where these were originally published

I invite you to be with them [the photos] and pay attention to whatever your responses are.

Should they be to shrug off today’s photos, I suggest you query, “Why?” Are there other places in your life where you might have a similar response? If so, does this serve you?

I’m finding it interesting, that I am making the assumption that you may find the photos uninspiring… not worthy… and whatever other negative thoughts/judgments you might make. I can certainly track these feelings to other areas of my life. Do they forward me? No! What about you?

For me, in part, it is the intrigue in these photographs that capture my attention and the linear flow of the imagery.

Lastly, as I was “wrapping up” here, I glanced once more at the photographs and in each I found some humor. Once again there is another level of “story” I can make up.

What about you? Are you creating any stories pursuant to these photos? Do they support you?


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